The Big C Word

Hey there! I am so glad you remember me!! It has been a very long time since I wrote you a blog. Your patience is much appreciated.

Well. This year we call 2017 has been a pretty shitty one, don't you agree??

I mean, you know me -- I'm all cake frosting and sassy sprinkles most of the time but jeez loo-eez, these past ten months have been a real slog fest. Let's not even talk politics, natural disasters, mass shootings... I'm talking about really close up, really personal, really tough challenges.

So many people I know, friends and family members have been hit with all kinds of crap -- divorces and breakups, job losses, illnesses, loss of dear family members... As a result, I've seen families splinter, friendships teeter, careers dangle in limbo. It's truly been hair raising to experience. Hardly anyone I know has remained untouched in some way.

Yet at the same time, people have somehow come together, connected with each other in new ways, transformed like never before.

I know about this kind of experience up close and personal because I've been hit with my own supersized challenge this year. This summer, I was diagnosed with cervical cancer. Yes indeed, you read that right: The big C word.

Since then, I've thought almost exclusively about getting myself healed and how that process plays out (one of the main reasons why you haven't heard from me in awhile). At the moment, it's playing out in daily radiation treatments and weekly chemotherapy infusions.

Talk about change -- the other big C word.

Currently, my weekday routine consists of getting dressed, eating breakfast (if I can manage the sight of food), driving to the local hospital for treatment, driving home (while eating salted potato chips, one of the only things I can stomach lately), taking a nap (or two), trying to eat dinner, reading / coloring / watching TV / posting to Facebook for a couple of hours and then heading back to bed.

For anyone who knows me even a little bit, this pared down routine is CRAZY SLOW DULLSVILLE for me!!! I mean, I'm RINGLEADER PAM! I've been know to juggle eight or ten different projects PER DAY!! I'm a single mom! An entrepreneur! A dance teacher and choreographer! A writer and speaker! Come ON people, I cannot be sleeping this much!!! 

Yes, that inner dialogue played out in my head over and over, for the first couple of weeks of my treatments. I was beating myself up on a daily basis for not getting enough done. Seriously. Then one night, after hearing my lament for the umpteenth time, my genius daughter told me in so many words that my only responsibility right now is to heal -- and that is ALL. She was so right. Since then, I've realized that not only CAN I be sleeping this much, but I MUST -- at least for right now. So yes, I'm learning to accept this temporary change.

At the same time (because I can't just sit here and not think), I'm still wrestling with what meaning I might glean from this obstacle, what transformation I might engender once I'm through this dark tunnel of a challenge. I'm not entirely sure who I'll be, once I emerge from my current cocoon of healing.

But that's kind of exciting, don't you think?

I'm a silver lining type of gal, so I feel like I've been given a golden opportunity to re-think my life, re-calibrate my direction, re-energize my mission and focus. As a result, I'm marinating some really juicy new ideas, daring to imagine the many possibilities that lie ahead (check my Pinterest boards if you're curious!). It's a brave new world for sure, peeps!

Meanwhile, I'm also contemplating how a self-employed single mom can work enough hours to earn enough dollars while fighting the fatigue, nausea, brain fog and other fun side effects of chemo/radiation. Luckily, my genius daughter also started a crowdfund to help us through these challenging months of my treatment and recovery. We're about halfway to our goal right now, thanks to so many of you who've donated through Facebook -- we are both extremely grateful for your generous support. Every little bit helps, so we hope you'll consider contributing whatever you're comfortable with. 

Here's the link to our page: www.youcaring.com/pamela-wills

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Thanks again for hanging out with me today -- I promise I'll be back sooner than last time!
 

© 2017 Pamela C Wills, Int’l


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Hey there! I'm Pamela C Wills, Ringleader of The Creative Revolution

I'm an award-winning Choreographer and published Author with a passion for business -- YOUR business. I teach up-and-coming performing Artists just like you how to successfully embrace your inner BADASS with confidence, navigate opportunity with ease and take your talents to the next levelMy popular programs and services help my clients level up and make ginormous leaps with the creative passions that they just can't live without.

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Have You Tried Masterminding?

When you surround yourself with other successful people, you naturally become better and smarter as a creative business entrepreneur (that's YOU, performing artist!).

One of the top ways to achieve this is through participating in mastermind peer groups. A mastermind is simply a group of several like-minded people who get together on a regular basis to talk about their projects and goals. 

If you currently don't have the right five people around you to help you level up your career (hint: you become like the five people you spend the most time with) AND you're dying to work with a mentor/career coach but can't afford the fees right now, then masterminding is perfect for you! 

And if masterminding is perfect for you, then The Guild is the perfect community for you to get it!

THE GUILD :: a forum exclusively for fearless performers that offers dedicated support and attention for your career challenges; helps you to overcome negativity and doubt with community support of like-minded performing artists; gives you the risk-taking, glass-shattering tools you need to uplevel your career and gain a wider audience; provides monthly access to me during live mastermind calls for answers to your most challenging career questions; is your best weapon for gaining new confidence, new gigs and new fans; AND at just $19/month ~ less than your coffee habit, let's be real ~ gives you incredible bang for your buck!

Check it here: www.pamelacwills.com/guild
 

© 2017 Pamela C Wills, Int’l


Hey there! I'm Pamela C Wills, Ringleader of The Creative Revolution

I'm an award-winning Choreographer and published Author with a passion for business -- YOUR business. I teach up-and-coming performing Artists just like you how to successfully embrace your inner BADASS with confidence, navigate opportunity with ease and take your talents to the next levelMy popular programs and services help my clients level up and make ginormous leaps with the creative passions that they just can't live without.

Want to start leveling up?
 Don’t just dabble, download your FREE report at www.pamelacwills.com and start calling YOUR shots today!

Love is in the Air Again

I don't know about you, but my emotions have been running on HIGH ALERT all week. Whether it's hormonal, political or cosmological, it still has the same effect: STRESS!

According to my supersmart healer pals, the antidote is self love. They say that however we can approach a situation -- any situation -- from a place of love is the way to find peace and healing. This makes a ton of sense to me, so I am practicing a new mantra that goes something like this:

Love instead of fear. Love instead of hate. Love, love, love, love, love.

So far, it's working! Love is in the air!

Do you feel it?

I've been thinking about love lately... a lot. It's February! The month of love... And you know what they say about love... Love is in the air. Love is the question and the answer. Love me or leave me. Love is all you need. All you need is love. Love isn't love until you give it away. Love thy neighbor. Love is a battlefield. Love and money. For the love of God. Love is a many splendored thing. Love has many faces. Love has no limits. Love will find a way. Love your Self!

Well, as you can see, I've been counting the ways. =)

This month, by right of Saint Valentine is dedicated to the most complex, famous, wonderfully exciting emotion, both noun and verb in one. Get comfy, take a seat because I'm here to help you start unraveling this puzzle this month. Today, it's all about the questions...

Read more here...


BTW, if you want more love and attention for your career, you really oughtta check my community of artists, for artists -- The Guild, espesh if you've been dying to connect with other like-minded performers for encouragement and accountability, The Guild is THE place for you! Furthermore, if you want more attention for your work, more confidence both onstage and offstage, and more ways to level up your performance career, The Guild is the place for you.

The Guild's membership perks are packed with bonuses like a private access group, publicity in front of my 22k+ network of followers, exclusive trainings and tips, monthly group mastermind calls with me and more -- all for less than the price of your gym membership.

After all, do you really want to languish in the back row when you could be center stage??

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Hey there! I'm Pamela C Wills, Ringleader of The Creative Revolution

I'm an award-winning Choreographer and published Author with a passion for business -- YOUR business. I teach up-and-coming performing Artists just like you how to successfully embrace your inner BADASS with confidence, navigate opportunity with ease and take your talents to the next levelMy popular programs and services help my clients level up and make ginormous leaps with the creative passions that they just can't live without.

Want to start leveling up?
 Don’t just dabble, download your FREE report at www.pamelacwills.com and start calling YOUR shots today!

How to Stay Positive

I won't lie.

Sometimes, life can get pretty rough. All kinds of negativity seems to swirl around, and sometimes people -- at times, myself included -- express anger, fear, doubt and worry. It can sometimes be seriously challenging to keep a positive attitude. I know you feel me.

Here's the thing: Negative situations happen all the time. Not to minimize the implications of what's happening at any given moment, but yeah, shit happens.

So how do we fight against the negative impact of all the shit happening?? 

My best advice is to embrace the power of positive thinking, because it helps us stay positive even when chaos reigns. Check these ideas for staying positive:

1) STOP the negative chatter in your head
Are you always beating yourself up mentally? Do you usually question your actions? Trust me, I’ve been there. So I know firsthand how important it is to retrain your brain to stop doing that to yourself. The more you talk negatively to yourself, the more that negativity digs in deep and becomes part of you. Instead, practice positive thinking: Anytime a negative thought shows up, replace it with a positive one. Soon enough, your brain automatically turns negatives into positives. It's magical.

2) Create a positive environment for yourself
It's essential to have influences in your life that support and lift you up instead of drag you down. Who and what you choose to spend your time on all have a huge impact on your outlook. Consider carefully WHAT you let into your mind and with WHOM you choose to spend your time.

Ask yourself:

  • Who are the three most negative people I spend time with?
  • What are the three of most negative sources of information I spend time on?


On the other hand, surrounding yourself with positive people helps you stay positive in negative situations. There are plenty of negative people out there — avoid them! Those negative attitudes can only bring you down.

3) Start your day positively
Set the tone for the rest of your day by strategically planning how you spend your mornings. 

Start your day by moving your body, reading or listening to inspiring information over a healthy breakfast or during your ride to work. These small steps can make a big difference in how your whole day goes.

4) Find the silver lining
Ask yourself this: 

  • What is one positive or good thing about this situation?
  • What is one opportunity that could result from this situation?

It's perfectly okay if you need a bit of time to process any uncomfortable thoughts and feelings that might arise in a negative situation. Forced optimism when you're still feeling the feels usually doesn’t work so well.

5) Express gratitude
Even when the worst shit is happening, we mostly realize that we still have things to be grateful for. We still count our blessings. Practicing gratitude, keeping a gratitude journal, acknowledging what we’re grateful for helps us to feel positive, even when bad things happen.

6) Get some exercise
Exercise is an excellent way to fight the negative effects of bad situations.  It releases those yummy endorphins in our brains that make us feel better. The physical, mental and emotional benefits of exercise cannot be overstated. Moving around keeps your body in better shape and boosts your self-esteem for having the discipline to exercise. Try adding yoga to your routine for some serious focus and meditation. 

7) Don't let fear hold you back
Take a chance! Start a new habit that feels unfamiliar! Who cares about what's the worst that could happen??

How about, What's the BEST that could happen??

Finding clarity doesn’t take much AND it can help you to get going, step outside of your comfort zone and take that chance.

8) Look for solutions and take action
Change is ROUGH. It's messy, it's painful, it's chaotic. But guess what -- change DOES happen. Just like that famous French journalist, Jean-Baptiste Alphonse Karr said, "the more things change, the more they stay the same."

Accepting that change is part of life can help you to relax and be more accepting. Try to look for the positive aspect. For example, if you’re in a crappy career situation, what do you do -- accept it and try to make it better? Maybe. Or maybe this is your opportunity to make a big change for yourself and land the role that you REALLY want.

Seriously tragic changes, like death throw us off even moreso, but when our brains have learned how to stay positive in negative situations, even tragedy won’t destroy us completely. With the power of positivity, we can master those negative situations whenever they arise.

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© 2017 Pamela C Wills, Int’l


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Hey there! I'm Pamela C Wills, Ringleader of The Creative Revolution

I'm an award-winning Choreographer and published Author with a passion for business -- YOUR business. I teach up-and-coming performing Artists of all stripes just like you how to successfully embrace your inner BADASS with confidence, navigate opportunity with ease and take your talents to the next levelMy popular programs and services help my clients level up and make ginormous leapswith the creative passions that they just can't live without.

Want to start leveling up?
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Why are you still hiding?

Okay, we all know that "resolution time" is upon us... BUT what does that really mean to you?

It's time to have a chat about your mindset at this point in the new year. You may think it's early, but we are already halfway through the first month of 2017! 

And let's be real: How long have you been trying to break out of the chorus and into a leading role?

It's been awhile now, amiright??

Look, I know you know how to do it all. You're a triple threat! You have the talent and the skills. So tell me, why are you still settling for a career that you're disappointed with?

In my experience, people hold themselves in undesirable patterns and situations for very specific reasons. Usually, those reasons live in your body at a deep subconscious level, which is where things get really tricky.

Let's be real again: the subconscious mind -- I call it the SubCon for short -- is a very tricky entity. It's like a toddler on a constant temper tantrum high. At least, mine is...

Look, it's not like your SubCon wants to hurt you. Quite the opposite. Your SubCon does everything it can to protect you. Take self-sabotage as a prime example. Any time you act in a way that sabotages your previous efforts, you're acting on direct orders from your SubCon to use that sabotage as a defense mechanism -- to help you avoid change at all costs.

Try this scenario on for size:
Your conscious mind says it wants nothing more than to get the chance at a solo or a lead role, but your sneaky SubCon is pulling the strings behind the scenes, keeping your goals just out of reach in order to protect you from certain death. I mean, soloing is scary! 

As long as your SubCon thinks you're safer in the shadows of the ensemble, then you're stuck. Your most valiant efforts will be undermined by self-sabotage Every. Single. Time.

But DON’T GIVE UP!

I promise you, there IS a way to turn this thing around -- and it all starts with figuring out the reason WHY your SubCon is so convinced that hanging in the back row equals staying safe. Once you shine a big ole light on that reason, it will lose its power over you.

Are you ready to figure out your reason? Let's do this!

Do you believe... You don’t deserve it?

Has someone in your life made you believe that you aren’t worthy of success? Or that you're not "supposed to" be more successful than they are? Or that you haven't worked hard enough or long enough for your place in the spotlight yet?

Do you believe... Change is bad or scary?

Fear of the unknown could very well be the reason you’re not reaching your goal. Being comfortable with where you are today could be the reason that you sabotage your efforts to improve your career through change. It's time to bust out of your comfort zone and take some big giant steps forward, my dear!

Do you believe... Success causes loss and heartache?

If you actually met your career goals, would your newfound success cause resentment and jealousy in your friends and family? Are you supposed to be the ‘screw-up’?

Do you believe... You’re not capable?

Are you unable to imagine yourself in that leading role? Does the possibility of achieving your goal not seem real to you?

This weekend, spend some time digging deep into your fears around advancing your career. Do some journaling, meditating, sleeping, walking, yoga or all of the above to discover why you aren’t meeting your goals yet. Once your entire mind -- both the conscious AND the SubCon -- is ready and willing to achieve success, literally NO THING will be able to stop you.

What the mind believes, the body achieves.

Train your mind to focus on success instead of fears this "resolution season" so you can spend the rest of the year working on those boldass performing arts #careergoals!

Re-train your mind for success and keep focused on your goals everyday.


© 2017 Pamela C Wills, Int’l


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Hey there! I'm Pamela C Wills, Ringleader of The Creative Revolution

I'm an award-winning Choreographer and published Author with a passion for business -- YOUR business. I teach up-and-coming performing Artists of all stripes just like you how to successfully embrace your inner BADASS with confidence, navigate opportunity with ease and take your talents to the next levelMy popular programs and services help my clients level up and make ginormous leapswith the creative passions that they just can't live without.

Want to start leveling up?
 Don’t just dabble, download your FREE report at www.pamelacwills.com and start calling YOUR shots today!

Who are you?

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Clearly, I already know your name, so that is NOT the answer to my question.

The answer to my question starts with another question, one that you ask yourself: Who am I?

Sounds redundant, but once you ask, you'll start to see the value in it.

Who am I? of course is THE question that every performer asks herself on a regular basis. We get onstage, we play our part, we take our bows and go home.

But ask yourself again once you're offstage, at home, alone, without an audience. Who am I?

Disclaimer: I'm not asking you this question for the sheer torture factor of it.

Listen, if you want to succeed with your talent, you have to present a cohesive brand to the world. You have to start matching your badass onstage persona to your offstage personality and vice versa. You can't expect to impress people on a publicity tour if you don't really show up as YOU. You are the face of your own brand. It's all YOU. 

So, who are you?

Are you tall or small? Are you shy or outgoing? Can you speak in public as yourself or do you have to be in character in order to not fall down dead of stage fright? Do you know where you're going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? 

Are you willing and able to stand in your authenticity as a person, as well as a performer? Do you have the guts to reach for that glory?

Being totally, completely, authentically YOU is one of the most glorious parts you will ever play. Don't pass on that one.

If you're finding it challenging finding your true self under all the roles you play, all the hats you wear, all the jobs you juggle -- try this exercise on for size. I give this gem to most of my private clients when we first start working together.

Try it:
Get a pen and paper (old school) or use your fave app and jot down 200 things about yourself, in no particular order. Don't stop when you get to 50, keep going!! I promise you, even if you hit pause and get back to it later, this will be the exercise that helps you define your edges. 


Once you're done, you can get on with the business of being YOU.

© 2017 Pamela C Wills, Int’l

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Hey there! I'm Pamela C Wills, Ringleader of The Creative Revolution

I'm an award-winning Choreographer and published Author with a passion for business -- YOUR business. I teach up-and-coming performing Artists of all stripes just like you how to successfully embrace your inner BADASS with confidence, navigate opportunity with ease and take your talents to the next levelMy popular programs and services help my clients level up and make ginormous leapswith the creative passions that they just can't live without.

Want to start leveling up?
 Don’t just dabble, download your FREE report at www.pamelacwills.com and start calling YOUR shots today!

What Do You Really Want?

You may have heard that the end of 2016 is drawing near... So let me ask you, did you get what you wanted this year? Did you decide what you wanted this year? Did you go for what you wanted this year?

Let me tell you this: If you answered YES to any or all of those questions, good for you! You can go chillax. Your work here is done. At least for this week.

If, however, you answered NO to ANY of these questions, we need to talk!

Listen, if you want to move forward, it is essential for you to consider these questions. There are only three of them. It's not so hard. You can do this!

1) DECIDE what you want

This step is KEY!

What do you want? I mean, what do you really, truly want? (I am not talking about Christmas/Hanukkah gifts here!)

What do you want from your life, your career, health, relationships, money, creativity -- ALL of it?

It's time to decide. Yes, now! If not now, then when?? If you don't decide, how can you work on it and make it happen? If you don't decide, nothing happens. Deciding is like goal setting. Write down your decisions and shift them into goals.

Decide.

2) TAKE ACTION on what you decide you want

This is kinda self explanatory... But here's the thing: Taking action simply means working on your goals, taking daily baby steps towards making your dreams and goals reality, making it happen. Go do it.

3) GET what you want

Be careful what you wish for, peeps because thoughts become things! Eventually, one way or another, you will get what you want.

Want help with these steps? I'm here for you. Book your complimentary chat with me (just click the black button below) and we'll get started on your plan.

Meanwhile, ask me anything! I'd love to feature your questions on my Ask Ringleader Pam page! Just hit reply and ask away!

© 2016 Pamela C Wills, Int’l


Hey there! I'm Pamela C Wills, Ringleader of The Creative Revolution

I'm an award-winning Choreographer and published Author with a passion for business -- YOUR business. I teach up-and-coming performing Artists of all stripes just like you how to successfully embrace your inner BADASS with confidence, navigate opportunity with ease and take your talents to the next levelMy popular programs and services help my clients level up and make ginormous leapswith the creative passions that they just can't live without.

Want to start leveling up?
 Don’t just dabble, download your FREE report at www.pamelacwills.com and start calling YOUR shots today!

Raise Your Hand

Raise your hand if you're feeling like the end of 2016 cannot arrive fast enough!

Raise your hand if you are jonesing for a major change of wallpaper and new perspective!

Raise your hand if you are currently hunting down moto and inspo like your life depends on it!

TAG ME raising three hands over here.

Yes, 2016 has been quite the action packed collection of months. There were miles and miles of crazy ups and downs, twists and turns, peaks and valleys. Amiright??

Usually, I take time at the end of the year to give tips about how to manage holiday stress syndrome -- you are familiar with the symptoms, I'm sure. But this week, I just want to suggest that you take a few moments to congratulate yourself for surviving (and maybe even thriving in) the past tumultuous 11 months.

Once you've done that, might I also suggest that you take a further few moments to map your strategy for 2017? A big year lays ahead of us, with lots of impending changes, including a numerological shift from the past nine year cycle to the next, new nine year cycle.

Why is this important? Mainly these extra bits of information serve to give us clues about how we can manage the future, how we can find firm ground to stand on when the unknown rushes into our lives and how we can find success in our careers and relationships despite the unknown variables we inevitably must deal with.

That's why I use things like numerology and astrology. They help me to manage the unknown and give me that all important moto and inspo I crave so much.

Here's another way I'm prepping for the new year and new cycle: I am clearing out piles of clutter in my home office and renovating that space completely. And I am so excited about it! Clearing out clutter is one of my fave ways to get motivated.

Finally, my daily method of keeping myself motivated involves changing up my style. You may have seen my shorter, darker hairstyle recently. You may have also heard that I've put myself on an intermittent fasting program to reduce my sugar cravings. You may have also heard that I'm following my dance passion into all kinds of projects, including dancing the tango with my new friend Dr. Molly Sullivan for Cape Wellness Collaborative's Dancing with the Docs in March 2017! More on that later...

Meanwhile, tell me your fave ways of staying motivated and inspired, I'd love to hear all about it!

And meanwhile, ask me anything! I'd love to feature your questions on my Ask Ringleader Pam page! Just hit reply and ask away!

© 2016 Pamela C Wills, Int’l
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Hey there! I'm Pamela C Wills, Ringleader of The Creative Revolution

I'm an award-winning Choreographer and published Author with a passion for business -- YOUR business. I teach up-and-coming performing Artists of all stripes just like you how to successfully embrace your inner BADASS with confidence, navigate opportunity with ease and take your talents to the next levelMy popular programs and services help my clients level up and make ginormous leapswith the creative passions that they just can't live without.

Want to start leveling up?
 Don’t just dabble, download your FREE report at www.pamelacwills.com and start calling YOUR shots today!