True confession: I've been napping a lot lately. Like, a LOT. I am so very glad that February is finally OVER. Thinking I might come out of my deep dark winter funk of hibernation tomorrow. That is, IF it doesn't snow again...
Yeah, this month has not been my fave. February rarely is. My birthday, the 19th has always fallen in the middle of school vacation and, as my Mother loves to remind me each year, it usually involves SNOW. My 9th birthday party was cancelled due to a snowstorm. As usual, on that sad day I sought refuge in my closet, my preferred crying space. Then I got all dressed up and blew out my candles and ate birthday cake anyway.
Here's the thing: I can weather any storm if I just have a chance to retreat, lick my wounds and pull myself together. When we take the time to value and take care of ourselves, we can get over the bumps and get back to being fabulous that much faster. Do it without making excuses or giving in to guilt about your needs will DEFinitely take the edge off any funk that winter or other irritating circumstances might throw you into.
Following is my short list of ways to climb out of that funk, with a heaping dose of self love:
1. Practice pleasure rituals.
Feeling good is as important as looking good. Long baths, facials, massages, any type of treatment for the body are not luxuries, they're essentials — no matter how busy your life is. My fave birthday present to myself? A 90 minute hot stone massage. That was the first step out of my deep dark winter funk last week!
2. Use the Feel Good measuring stick.
The “no pain, no gain” school of thought never works for me. I operate according to the pleasure principle: If I'm doing something that makes me feel and look great (yoga, napping), there will be a positive effect on my overall well-being. Disclaimer: This does not imply overindulgence. Overindulgence never feels good. Think hangover. Blech.
3. Accept your current circumstances.
Happiness does not come from success. Success follows happiness. Practice acceptance of your current life with gratitude. Say thank you all the time. Be thankful for your ability to walk, talk, eat, laugh, pay bills, use a computer, drive a car... By most of the world's standards, if you're reading this, you are wealthier than something like 80% of the 6+ billion people on Earth. That's pretty rad.
4. Enjoy great food.
Great food is fundamental to enjoying life, so why deprive yourself? When you're feeling blue, enjoy a little of everything you love. No one needs to eat bread, cheese and dessert every day. Overeating only leads to negative feelings. Love chocolate? Have some! I'm not saying go ahead and gorge on ice cream and chips every night. I'm saying lighten up, already. If you're fighting to stay sane and positive through a few days or weeks of crankiness, it's okay to give yourself a little wiggle room.
5. Feel good AND look good.
I know you might be feeling like a stale piece of pigeon poo but please, don’t go out looking like an unmade bed. Even if you're in a hurry, get dressed, brush your hair, put on some lipgloss and maybe a pair of earrings. Feeling good is also about looking good, and looking good shows respect for yourself.
6. Be real about your feelings.
If you are feeling cranky, don't try to hide it! Be up front with yourself and your loved ones. Ask for some alone time to just be cranky.
Here's what I do when I'm feeling like Miss Whiny Bitchy Crankypants: Hold up my hand when someone tries to talk to me. Hang my Do Not Disturb sign on my door. Let phone calls go straight to voice mail. Return emails only after I'm feeling better. Otherwise, if I try to interact when I'm a crank, things never go well! It's always better to wait it out.
7. Hug and be hugged!
We all need human touch to survive and thrive. Don't just say hi to friends and family! Forget about firm grip handshakes! Move in for the bear hug!! Give hugs freely. Ask for hugs. Welcome hugs. Hugs ROCK.
Best Kept Secret: Hugging for 20 seconds or more boosts your immune system and your happiness factor. I practice the 20 second hug with my yoga instructor, Michelle whenever I see her! Gives me an awesometastic moto push to get to yoga class, too. ;)
8. Get out and have some fun!
For my birthday, not only did I get myself an amazing hot stone massage, but I also decided to skip the birthday cake and go out with friends for some live music instead. Open Mic Night at the Harvest Wine Gallery in Dennis Village was a blast! Thanks Kelli, Ruth, Tad, Stacy, Amy, Maria, Holly, Anthony, Kami and Joey for being there, I had so much fun!
The next day, I took my Sunshine Girl daughter out for a fancy dinner and a show. Then the day after that, I took myself shopping! Finally got my new iPhone, yay! Happy Birthday to ME. You know how it is, a little retail therapy goes a LONG way.
There you have it, my short list of ways to UnFunkify your winter self. Go have yourself some fun. Then come back and tell me all about it. Make me jelly!!!
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