Have you ever had one of those days when you just feel like nothing's going your way? Like nothing you're working on is working? Or like nothing will ever work out the way you want it to?
Sometimes, no matter how much we think we are practicing positivity and gratitude, those old familiar fears, doubts and worries can sneak up on us, ambush us and bonk us over the head with their yucky negativity.
How do I know this? Haha, very funny. Yeah I know this very well because yes, it sometimes even happens to me! In fact, it just happened to me yesterday. Yes, really!!
Yes, even though I just celebrated my birthday on Monday -- during which so many people made me feel so special and I was reminded again of all the amazing love in my life -- I still had a crappy day after the birthday. Maybe it was just the letdown after experiencing so much special attention on my birthday (LOL) or maybe I just let myself be overtaken by that old Bermuda Triangle of fear, doubt and worry... Either way, the results were less than stellar.
Here's the thing:
On one hand, my life feels pretty charmed, even including the fact that I just spent six months dealing with (and BEATING!) cervical cancer. That fact is included because I feel I've been given an incredible opportunity to decide what I really want out of life AND experience an amazing amount of love and support from my community.
On the other hand, a bunch of new stress-mongers keep knock-knocking at my door, growing louder and more insistent every day. For example:
- Since the end of January, my health has taken a small step backwards, with weird uncomfortable digestive issues and renewed fatigue topping the list. A new battery of tests this week (abdominal CT scan included) and a follow-up PET scan in Boston top that fun list. Hoping for easily fixable results from all of the above. Cross your fingers for me please!
- My quest for new income sources has yielded several enticing bites but nothing solid as yet. Hey, if you're looking for writing, marketing or accountability help for your business, I'm your gal (and I'm having a sale this month)! ^^ Just click on that blue link ^^ for more info!
- The waiting game continues with other payouts like insurance and my tax return...
- Meanwhile, next month's bills loom ahead and this weekend is Celia's final college audition, in NYC of course!
As you can see, if I'm not careful, these little buggers can spiral out of control and become big scary monsters (kinda like they did yesterday...). Who needs that, right?? Not me!!
So, I work EVERY. DAMN. DAY. to stay in gratitude, because I know that worry won't solve a thing. In fact, it makes everything WORSE. And I know that remaining focused on the positive in my life is not just the best but the ONLY way to keep moving forward.
These are my top remedies for keeping the scary monsters at bay and staying grateful when you're having one of those crappy, icky, negative, scary days:
1) Pull out your favorite inspirational book and READ IT
Those inspirational writers know a thing or two about helping you feel better.
2) Talk to your bestie
There is nothing like a good old fashioned chat with your best friend to help you see things more clearly and make you feel better in no time at all. (Thanks, Angel and Celia! xoxo)
3) Find as many silver linings as you can
For me, the silver lining of a dark cloud represents the most beautiful, most subtly shimmering strand of joy that can be extracted from an otherwise awful situation. Seek and you shall find it.
4) Distract and conquer
Distract yourself by doing something fun! Crank up your fave tunes and have yourself a dance party!! Color a page of your most beautiful coloring book. Pull out your old photo files (paper or digital, it doesn't matter) and reminisce about the good old days. Go bowling!! Whatever floats your boat.
5) Make a list
Think about all the many, many things you're grateful for and write that shit down. Start with the air you breathe and keep going until you can't think of a single thing anymore. If you don't keep one already, start a gratitude journal or jar or box so you can go back and look for inspo on other days like this one -- because they will come up every now and again.
6) Help someone else
Helping a friend or a pet in need can really help you focus on something else while simultaneously helping you realize that maybe you don't have it so bad, after all.
7) Get your sweat on
Yeah, that PhD in body movement really comes in handy at times like these. See #4, Dance Party.
8) Create a vision board
If you haven't done this yet, I highly recommend this incredibly fun and relaxing way to bring your goals and dreams to life, either on paper or digitally, like on Pinterest. I personally use both media! Pinterest is always at the ready on my phone, useful whenever I'm waiting in line or waiting for an appointment. And there is just something so juicy about creating a paper vision board that really gets me jazzed! So much so that I'm leading a vision board workshop next Friday night, March 2nd at Innerglow Yoga in Mashpee! Check below for details!
© 2018 Pamela C Wills, Int’l
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