At this gift giving and getting time of year, many of us start to rush around with deeply furrowed brows, scurrying from one store to the next, hoping that our purchases will be well received, wondering what others might give us, praying that our credit cards will last for just one more week... It's easy to say stuff like, once the holidays are over, I'll be happy. After the bills are all paid, I'll be happy. If my partner would actually help out for once, I'd feel happy. Once all the gifts are wrapped, cookies all baked, after the holiday craziness is over, I'll be really happy! Then I'll have some wine, some chocolate, a bubble bath, maybe a massage...yeah. Then I will REALLY be happy!!!
Psst! I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Ready? Here it is:
When we keep looking outside of our Selves for happiness -- in that retail therapy, that glass of wine, that perfect relationship -- it NEVER works. Come on, let's be honest here. Even if it does somehow work out temporarily, in the long run, it never lasts.
Hey look, I'm as hot for a bar of European dark chocolate and a great bargain on a pair of black leather riding boots as the next gal. Seriously! However, that fix is fleeting and we all know it.
The only way to go when on safari for the big "H" is to stop and listen.
You heard me. Listen. Listen to your thoughts. Listen to your heartbeat. Take a moment to breathe.
Then try these three exercises:
1) SMILE A lot. All the time. At everyone. Sounds crazy but it truly works. Have you ever seen a smiley person look cranky? Nope.
2) Be NICE NOT naughty. The Naughty List is NOT where it's at. Sprinkle sugar wherever you go. The more you give, the more you get. What have you got to lose??
3) JUST DANCE! Of course! Dancing is an instant happy maker! Crank up the tunes and have your own private dance-a-thon! In the kitchen. In your car. In the grocery store. In the shower! I've been known to rock all of the above...so I can tell you, it totally works.
Have fun. You only live once!